Facesitting, it’s like ‘going down’ but without the neck ache. This practice allegedly goes all the way back to Ancient Egypt and was common in the medieval times, now it’s coming to your bedroom.
It’s all in the name; facesitting is the act of sitting on someone’s face. Not to smother them (unless that's what they want) but to receive oral sex. Traditionally it’s considered a ‘woman on top’ position but anyone of any gender can enjoy taking a seat or eating the meal.
What’s the Difference Between Facesitting and Cunnlingus?
Facesitting requires the receiver to straddle or squat over their partner’s face. This makes it pretty ‘full on’, quite literally. For the giving partner it’s not just their mouth involved, they’ll be breathing, smelling and tasting their partner. Their entire field of vision will be taken up them too. Plus, gravity and their partner’s weight can add to this erotically overwhelming experience.
Meanwhile for the receiver it’s all about focusing on their pleasure. Facesitting, or ‘queening’, puts them in control of the pace, and some women find it easier to climax on top. 90.9% of women enjoy receiving oral sex, and 24% claimed that the main reason they enjoy oral sex is because of how their partner makes them feel emotionally. One woman describe it as one of the best orgasms she ever had! Confidence is king… or queen in this scenario.
Queening? Seriously?
Yes! Anyone can facesit, but queening is stepping into kinky territory. Even without strapping them to bed, the authority of a dominant woman knowing exactly what she wants and nothing matters but her pleasure… that’s hot. Some people find having their face sat on and being “used” incredibly appealing.
Because of this, facesitting is popular amongst dominatrices, as they’re able to blend control with humiliation and denial. For example, in a male sub and female Domme scenario, facesitting prevents any stimulation of the penis unless the Dommes chooses to treat their sub to some hand action. Or, if he’s not pleasing her, she can slap his penis or pinch his nipples.
Facesitting doesn’t have to involve this kind of power play, but the option is there if you’re into it.
Okay, You’ve Piqued My Interest. How Do I Do It?
Before starting you should discuss two things; one, which direction the giver is comfortable with the top is sitting – not everyone is okay with anal eye-to-eye contact, and two, how to signal if they need a break. This is vital for givers if their partner gets too enthusiastic and they can’t breathe.
Now, givers, time to lie down. You might want a pillow or two under your head for extra support, or you may prefer being flat against the mattress. Experiment to find what’s most comfortable for you!
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Receiving partners then straddle their partner’s head, it might feel awkward at first but don’t worry. Use the headboard, wall, or bed for support as needed, and lower your vulva or anus down towards their face. Top tip for the girls, line things up so your clit can rub against your partner’s nose as you grind.
Then it’s up to the giver to perform cunnilingus or rim their partner. It is possible to give someone a blowjob in this position but it gets a little tricky. Remember, you might be coming at your partner’s anatomy from upside-down, and you’ll have to adjust your technique.
Going the Extra Mile
Hands, get them involved. Not just to stimulate the receiver’s genitals but also to grab their thighs, pulling them deeper to give them more. If your partner is focusing on your vulva or ass, bring something like a bullet vibrator or suction toy into play, or a masturbator if you have a penis.
Also, make sure beards or stubble are clean to prevent beard burn – no one wants thigh rash! – and consider conditioning it so the hair is softer. Speaking of hygiene, receivers might be self-conscious about how they smell. Some givers like the ‘musk’ so it’s worth asking, but if you want to shower and/or shave beforehand go ahead. I would say that because of the grinding, you should make sure your anus is clean.
Won’t They Suffocate?
As with any sexual practice, consent and clear communication is key. No matter what size you are, as long as you communicate it’ll be fine. Tap-in/tap-out when anyone needs a breath break you’ll have them eating out of your… well, not your hands anyway.
If you’re still concerned, try starting with different positions and work up to a full facesit. Now, of course, if you have a kink for breath control or suffocating, that’s called a smothering fetish.
Now you know all about facesitting are you going to encourage your Queen to take a seat? Or ascend to your own throne? Let us know if you found our advice helpful, or share your own secrets to getting the perfect face full.